Crying is healing. When a lot of feelings are stored up they become a weight, and crying is a way to feel them. It lets them out, and almost immediately after you feel better.
There is a lot of stigma around crying, especially for men, which is too bad because it is an incredibly powerful tool for dealing with our emotions. It is powerful, and you are powerful for feeling the safety to allow it. I have cried a good number of times in the past month, and each time it has been a connection with myself and a beautiful release.
How to know if you need to cry? Well first — if you're alive and it's April 2020, you could probably use a good cry. In general \u00e2\u0080\u0094 if you feel disconnected from your feelings, like there's something that's blocking you. If you feel sad, heavy.
How to get yourself to cry? It'll come when it is ready, if you let it. Perhaps there are songs that do it for you, movies... reddit.com/r/Frisson/ is a subreddit that will 100% get you there.
Find a place that is comfortable — if it needs to be inside a car, in the shower...or perhaps it is while a partner or roommate holds you.
I would love to hear about your experiences with crying.